Bibliography
Bibliography/References for Dialogue Practice Group:
- Harville Hendrix, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, Updated and Revised
- Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt, Workbook, Getting the Love You Want: The New Couples’ Study Guide
- Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt, Making Marriage Simple
- Terry Real, New Rules of Marriage (available in Audio Book and Book)
- Marshall Rosenberg, NonViolent Communication: A Language of Life, 2nd Edition
- Jack Zimmerman & Jaquelyn McCandless, Flesh & Spirit: The Mystery of Intimate Relationship
- Jack Zimmerman & Virginia Coyle, The Way of Council
Resources – General
Dialogue:
- Dialogue Demo with Harville & Helen (YouTube VIDEO)
- What is Imago Therapy – video by Harville & Helen (YouTube VIDEO)
- How to Talk Politics with the People You Love, by Harville and Helen
- History of “Is There More” Dialogue by Ken and Dee
- Intentional Dialogue with John Wineland and Guru Jagat (YouTube VIDEO)
- Needs – Based Negotiation: 3 Stages of Dialogue and 3 Types of Reactivity by LaShelle Lowe-Charde
- Mirroring An Appreciation with Harville & Helen (YouTube VIDEO)
Miscellaneous:
- Finding Freedom -A Do Over by Lori Woodley
- Initiator – Inquirer Process in Couples Therapy, with Ellyn Bader
- Thanksgiving Inspiration on Gratitude by Toni Herbine-Bank
- It’s Not About The Nail (YouTube VIDEO)
- What to do when one of you wants to change your partner – sequence of change – Video with Ellyn Bader
- Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits – on John Gottman’s philosophy of Kindness and Contempt
- Still Face Experiment by Ed Tronick (YouTube VIDEO)
- Do Men Love Differently Than Women? by Steven Stosny
- 20 Practices from the book “The New Rules of Marriage” by Terry Real
- How to achieve a great relationship by Tony Robbins (YouTube VIDEO)
- Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person By Alain de Botton
- Attachment Style Revealed: Are You An Anchor, Island or Wave?, by Dr. Sarah Schewitz
- Hand Model of the Brain, by Dan Siegel
Listening:
- “Deep Heart Listening” from HeartMath.com
- “How to be a Good Listener” video clip by Terry Real (YouTube VIDEO)
Repairs:
- I’m Sorry” isn’t enough….How to Make a Sincere Apology and Be Forgiven by Bruce Muzik
- How to Engage in a Repair Dialogue by LaShelle Lowe Charde
- Teaching Our Clients the Art of Repair, Terry Real (Webinar)
- Repair is the Secret Weapon of Emotionally Connected Couples, Kyle Bensen
Requests:
- Solution for Conflicts Through Communication, Marshall Rosenberg (YouTube VIDEO)
- Understanding How Shame Hinders Clear Requests, by LaShelle Lowe Charde
Boundaries:
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10 Way to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
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HEALTHY BOUNDARIES – PART 2: CONTROLLING MY REACTIVITY TOWARDS MY PARTNER, by Dee Chapon
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Boundaries – The Journey to Being Able to Say “No”, by LaShelle Lowe-Charde
Triggering – Time Outs, Self Recovery
- Choice, Returning to Presence by Lori “Woodley
- 10 Commandments for Taking Time-Outs by Terry Real
- Self Recovery Worksheet by Ken Moore
- Brief Reconnecting Practice by Kathleen Golden
- Speaking While Upset: Moving from Destructive to Constructive in 6 Simple Steps. by Elaine Shpungin, Ph.D
- Solution for conflicts through communication“, by Marshall Rosenberg (YouTube VIDEO)
- The Art of Not Being Offended” by Shemsi Prinzivalli
- Just One Thing: What puts people at Ease by Rick Hanson
- Steps for an Effective Time Out, by LaShelle Lowe Charde
“What I’m Telling Myself”:
- Complaining to your Partner by Terry Real (YouTube VIDEO)
Relationship Skills:
- How to get Your Spouse to Change (and think it was their idea), Bruce Muzik
- Five Losing and Five Winning Strategies: The Repair Process by Terry Real
- How to Stay in Love, Transcript from Real and Esther Perel
- How to Make Love All the Time and Enjoy Sex Too – Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt
- How to Balance Differentiation and Bonding by LaShelle Lowe Charde
Self Responsibility:
- See Your Part by Rick Hanson, PhD
Resources – Mainland
- Terry Real, http://www.terryreal.com/
- Harville Hendrix and Hellen LaKelly Hunt, PhD’s, http://www.harvillehendrix.com/
- Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson, http://www.couplesinstitute.com/services/couples-community/
- Newt Bailey, http://www.communicationdojo.com/
- NVC Academy for online courses and library of audio recordings from classes, tele classes, etc. http://nvctraining.com/
- LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Wise Heart web-site, with informative blog articles on relationships and NVC
Resources – Non Violent Communication (NVC)
- Feelings & Needs: http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory and http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
- NVC Academy for online courses and library of audio recordings from classes, teleclasses, etc. http://nvctraining.com/
Resources for NVC Maui
- Becky Lewis, NVC Teacher leads a practice group in Kihei on Tuesday afternoons twice a month. She also offers day long Introductory Workshops. Call her for dates .510-761-6215 or email nvcbasketry@gmail.com.
- Jim and Jori Manske, Certified NVC Trainers and Mediators, welcome all to their Maui Open Hearted Practice Group, currently meeting on Mondays from 4pm – 6pm in Haiku when on island. Learn more about their trainings and teleclasses (some free) at radicalcompassion.com. Connect with Jori and Jim via radicalcompassion@gmail.com or 808-575-5301.