When any difficult issue came up in my relationship with my husband, Ken, my first response was to look to where he was “wrong” or “insensitive” or “lacking.” I often saw him as the primary source of the discord or conflict we were...
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Want better sex? Try making love first
As much as “enjoyable sex” is sought after, even expected (especially in the early days of a relationship), it is often hard to come by. Learn how to have better sex by making love first!
Read moreAre You Guilty of the #1 Communication Mistake Couples Make?
If you’ve heard your partner say these three words “…you’re not listening!”, you’re not alone! Therapist Clinton Powers says it’s the number-one communication mistake couples make. It’s also our experience in our workshops – one partner (and...
Read moreHow to know When to hold ‘em & When to fold ‘em
Why “bandwidth” is SO Important in talking with your partner Or How to know When to hold ‘em, & When to fold ‘em Without realizing it, we may want to talk with our partners when we’re WAY too upset for constructive conversation...
Read moreAn Appreciation a day keeps the Therapist away!
An Appreciation a day keeps the Therapist away! Our workshop students love doing our style of appreciation because of its simplicity, ease and power to dramatically improve how couples felt about each other – and themselves...
Read moreHow to Have an Important Conversation with Your Partner
Do You find yourself complaining about your partner / relationship? When’s the last time you spent time with them – just for the joy of being connected? Our busy, over-scheduled lives and, possibly, the avoidance of “difficult” topics often lead...
Read moreWould you like to really be heard? Try Dialogue
The primary skill set we teach in our work with couples is called Dialogue. Taught by many couples experts and called by different names, most of the communication model we use in our teaching comes from well know couple’s therapist, Harville...
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